How to Love Yourself:By Andrea Breann Salas
Being disgusted with yourself isn’t going to make you any happier or prettier. Blocking your body from mirrors and picture takings can make yourself more insecure. Comparing yourself to others and their accomplishments will only make you believe that God gave you no purpose and he just created you to rot in this world. You feel you’re the only human being left on earth who has no reason live or feel better about themselves, but, have you actually considered even trying at all?
Just because you’re not a super model or having a million dollars doesn’t mean you can be just as happy as being the first man to walk on the moon! Silhouetting yourself from the world won’t make you less noticeable. Your features may not show but your soul is just as clear as a blind man getting his sight back. While you’re sitting in your dark room, hiding in the corner and watching others be happy, think to yourself of what the feeling would be like if you were happy and felt alive. You can feel like a magical unicorn that smells like sweetness and cotton candy, you can be the suns twin just by being the brightest soul out there and it blinds people when you show off your smile!
Nothing is ever impossible to achieve if you can physically, mentally and emotionally conquer it. Be that bad ass girl or boy who blows people’s minds by the way you take the pain, hatred and negativity as if it was nothing to you. I promise you when you learn how to swerve and face anything in life or simply just by being happy with the way you are, nobody will be able to knock you down and you will make them regret for ever doubting your feelings.
Look at it this way, would you want to be known for that girl or boy who creeps everyone out and makes them call you ugly for your existence? No one wants to be treated differently just because no one understands them. Judging a book by its cover won’t make you become more intelligent, it will make you become more ignorant and you may never know if you end up like the story little by little but for now, you’ll just assume the title is horrible and since that doesn’t interest you, you’ll just come to the conclusion of a bad work of art. Give that book all your patience and time to fully understand what you’ve been missing and perhaps will make you rethink twice about judging someone’s beauty. Why must we bring each other down when it comes to accepting ourselves to one another with having the fear of hearing the negative words be repeating in your head and believing that the words are true , no one like hearing the song that they hate play in their head over and over again.
I know you didn’t want to be created the way that you are and dreamed about who you were meant to look like or be, but God only created one copy of you for reason and you should be scared of a beautiful piece of artwork. So what if you’re not skinny, smart, athletic or just plain not perfect. What really matters is that you can be smart enough to see through to yourself and agree that you are a living, breathing beautiful soul that and could be having someone looking for you to love you forever. You’ve been bullied for the way you’ve dressed, teased about how you don’t have the prettiest smile, pushed around for not having that perfect summer body ,but the only thing you do have that no one else has is your sweet and gentle personality . Don’t make yourself turn into a bully for getting revenge on other so they can feel your pain, you don’t need to create a bigger fire. The only way you can get revenge is by showing everyone that you can be the happiest person in the world and their awful and explicit words will slowly fade away to where you got to ask them’ ’Is that all you got?’’.
Don’t you think it’s a struggle for you to keep wearing a mask every day to fool others into thinking that you’re happy when you know damn well you’re just making things more complicated for yourself? Your dreams are becoming nightmares and you’re life is starting to look like hell, and it putting a huge weight on your shoulders and testing your strength and winning the battle of insecurity. The devil is a lie and he will make sure that his demons will take over your soul and turn you into a bad, permanently damaged human being! You try and not let your scars show and every scar represent the individual times of being treated like crap for not being perfect. It is never too late to turn your life around and start fresh with a new face and a new lifestyle. If you can’t change your life for others ,then do it for yourself and you’ll be surprised to how strong you are for never giving up for which every time you succeed , God will reward you in life for your hard work.
When it comes to telling someone a few tips and reasons why they should love themselves, sometimes that person doesn’t believe them because words don’t mean anything and it’s all about the actions of their feelings towards the person they love and care about. It’s sad to hear someone say ‘’Words have no effect on me no more , people lied to me and make me look like a fool for trusting them’’. It’s not easy convincing a damaged soul to make them not hurt themselves or want to end their lives and people don’t know the meaning of love when all they’re doing taking their feelings as a joke and pretending to be his/her friend. It’s so easy to say ‘’I am always here for you ‘’ or ‘’ I love you ‘’. us humans are very sensitive towards words that one little word such as ‘’ you’re beautiful ‘’ can change a person’s life for a day ,but since people want to assholes about it and trick them into think they give a crap about them ,makes me sick to stomach to actually believe there is real people like that walking around this earth !
The number one rule of loving yourself is There is only ONE of you is this world. Always remember , the only way you can make yourself happy is by become a better version of your old self and you’ll see the comparison of how much you’ve changed over the years of trying your hardest to let your wings soar. You were once this caterpillar that was searching for its purpose and wondering when will I become a beautiful butterfly so I can show off my beauty to the world, and now you’ve reached your goal into becoming a beautiful butterfly and your majestic beauty will make all other insects be jealous of you and caterpillars wanting to be you and you can finally show them how you can transform yourself into one of nature’s beauties!
We are brainwashed into thinking beauty is all about the outside and not caring about the inside and we judge those who aren’t matching their standards. Beauty on the outside can be fixed and also be destroyed but the beauty on the inside remains untouched and fixed. Of course money is the solution to making you beautiful but money isn’t going to buy that solid gold heart you have inside waiting for people to see through like a magnifying glass! If we lived in a world were souls were judged instead of the what clothes you’re wearing and how well you pull it off ,you would be amazed to see how many souls are walking around with a cold and broken heart and act like nothing is hurting them . The reason why people are mean and causing trouble for others is because they too are feeling insecure with themselves and they’ve been bullied about it for too long to think the world is such is horrible place and it needs to be taught a lesson.
There is nothing wrong with looking different or acting different, that the beauty of knowing you know who you are. Being an original is better than being a copy and if you think about it the ones that are copying off one another are basically the ugly ones because they don’t know what the definition of being yourself is .Doing what you love and not caring what others think of you is gorgeous and it defines your true colors like painting a landscape of the sunset! Start every morning with a positive mood such as doing a warm up of a little pep talk to yourself in the mirror repeating’ ’I am BEAUTIFUL !’’And to even get yourself a kick start, try to smile at everyone and compliment the day so you can send those good vibes to the world!
The most frustrating part about learning how to love yourself is pointing out what you have and don’t have. You make list of all of your mistakes and begin to insult yourself so it wouldn’t hurt you when someone else would do it to you. Insulting and breaking your own heart isn’t a lovely walk down the yellow brick road, it may hurt now but you’ll start to numb your feelings to where no words can kill you and people will turn it into a game of emotions to fully take the challenge of seeing if you’re really dead inside. I hate the fact that people take other people’s feelings as a joke and play games with it like it’s meant to be funny and harmless. I bet if someone played with their hearts and emotions it wouldn’t be as funny as doing it to someone that less’ ’important’’. I don’t see how a human is less important than compared to any other human being, you can’t compare two of the same species and tell them that they’re different because they don’t have the nicest clothes or the nice shoes. God created us humans to see how well we can manage to have a good heart and learn to live with each other but apparently something broke free and caused chaos into humanity and now there is barely any beauty left in us to where even if we did find someone with a good heart, they would either turn bad or can’t trust anyone that is willing to keep their promise of always accepting their imperfections in their existence.
They say when someone kills themselves because of the world treated them like damn animal, its selfish. How can someone be selfish with their own life when they’ve been trying so hard to be part of the crowd but only get rejected by society standards, the only selfish people out there is YOU! You think you’re so amazing and popular that you only accept those in your life who isn’t a bum or ugly. You only give sympathy when you realize you just tortured an innocent soul who was just trying to be just like you and wanted to know what it would be like to be popular or even a somebody. Why can’t we help other out instead of bringing each other down , we weren’t made to hurt anyone or kill anyone , we weren’t made to make this world a peace and harmless place where no one should be afraid to show their true colors without getting punished for it ! It just sickness me to be a human to know that my own species can be so cruel and evil to their own kind. Animals are nicer to each other, and we can’t even compliment one thing to someone without being lied to about it.
When you start to cry every day from seeing how ugly you are or hating the way you are, it’s okay to have a bad moment while looking at yourself but it’s not okay to make it a routine where you tell yourself how you were a mistake, nobody wants you or likes you, love is not part of my emotions. You may never know if someone is secretly crushing on you and loves the way you are and wants to be part of your life. You’d be surprised by the fact that you’re actually making someone fall in love with you and it gets you thinking’ ’How can anyone love someone who is UGLY?’’ Even though you don’t love yourself, someone wants to love you for you and believing that miracles do happen, its gets better if you accept this person’s love for you and you will realize that you can learn to love yourself if someone already loves you! Being insecure or just doubting on yourself can come with a good and bad package and what I mean by that is you can be insecure with yourself and be negative your whole life or you can be insecure with yourself and have someone teach you on how to love yourself and perhaps the both of you can love each other just by making one another happy.
I know certain people have to work to get their beauty or some just randomly blossom and get from being the schools loser to the schools hottest girl/guy. It all depends on you to figure out on how you would want to show off your beauty and how you would use it towards others. Don’t be too conceded with yourself but also feel like you’re the red rose out of a white rose garden. Also, don’t ruin your body with plastic surgery and what not just to look good that will only last a couple of years or less, so why waste your money on beauty when you’re true beauty last forever in your heart and no one in the world can’t say your heart is ugly because the one way for your heart to be ugly is being insecure and we don’t want that! Just remember that beauty isn’t materialistic, it’s what the eyes of the beholder can see through you and one by one point out your beautiful flaws that make their world light up like a shining star at night.
Never let anyone tell you how to live your life and then judge every choice you’ve made, it’s not like they’re perfect and never made any mistakes. Mistakes are not always a bad thing, mistakes can be a good thing such as making a different change in your life or learning about something you never knew about. Life is hard but don’t make it too hard and you may never know what you might come across to along the journey, and follow the three steps in order to be happy in life. One, Learn. Two, Live. Three, Love.